On this vacation I actually had time to read a whole book! - Better Than Before by Gretchen Rubin. I like her books because none of what she writes about is revolutionary stuff, but she reads all the books I would want to about happiness, or in this case habits, and talks about them all in one place while trying to put them into practice and recruiting people around her to see what works for them too. One of the main ideas of this book is that everyone fits into one of four categories that describes how they respond to both over and outer expectations. From her website, in a nutshell:
Upholders respond readily to outer and inner expectations (I’m an Upholder, 100%)
Questioners question all expectations; they’ll meet an expectation if they think it makes sense (myhusband is a Questioner)
Rebels resist all expectations, outer and inner alike
Obligers meet outer expectations, but struggle to meet expectations they impose on themselves
To take the quiz to see which you are, go here (I'm an Obliger. Explains a lot). Now I just have to put it into practice! I would highly recommend this book for anyone who's alive!